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How wise, how graced with scientifically-based righteousness we now are! Having twisted the words “sex” and “gender” into pathetic caricatures, our recently-acquired wisdom shames the generally-uniform-across-cultures definition of manliness that has prevailed since the dawn of time.
As women in large numbers are now being persuaded by fourth-wave feminism to abandon their intrinsic beauty and focus on life so as to embrace solely the material and dominance values that used to be the exclusive province of men, so now men are being subtly enticed to abandon their fundamental masculinity and become women. An entire “rights” movement bears witness to the incredulity that not only can this happen, but indeed it must. When we meet in the middle as rootless, genderless, character-free wanderers, will the world then truly be as one, as John Lennon so pathetically whined?
If a plot to utterly destroy us from the inside out was desired, could a more insidious one than this be imagined?
Oh…thanks for waking me up, sweetie. Wow, was I having a nightmare! Political correctness had become so endemic that it was even dragging the sciences down and was sweeping the world. Yeah, you’re right. That can’t be possible. But it seemed so real…. The kids are sleeping? Good. Let’s you and I go back to bed. Mmm..you smell so nice….
Your rant would appear to be evidence that we really need to move away from gender nonsense and start emphasizing the fact that we are human beings, each boasting a brain and consciousness.
I grew up with asperger’s syndrome. This was in the 90’s when it was new, and the elementary school I was at suspected it because of the difficulties I had. I completely failed to mature socially, dropped out of college. There wasn’t anything driving my life. People were enemies to me no matter how they treated me.
At 23, after two years of one to one therapy, my therapist recommended a partial hospitalization program. There was a worksheet on ‘boundaries’ presented to us. That was the first time I understood expressing emotion. Before that, I simply didn’t understand the context, the why-am-I-doing-this.
I spent years afterwards learning what it is to be a person through podcasts and the internet. I think that American society itself is far too greedy when it comes to what it wants people to be. People are not tools to be fixed. They don’t want help. They are humans with desire. Society exists for people and because of people, not the other way around.
I think Orson Scott Card was correct when he said, “Society is for women.” I’ve spent years watching anime reading male adolescent targeted works. All of them are primal stories, they consist of a man going after what he wants out of life, building a society of his women, and challenging the odds against those who hold power.
My current theory on male culture American society doesn’t have the perspective necessary to understand these primal urges. America spent years playing the warrior archetype card over and over, our President is a warrior archetype. Get things, build wall. What I think this male culture needs is discussion and strategy.
Men need a path to walk and support to get there, they don’t need a reason to seek power, that lies within them already. What we’re not doing in America is letting men be men. However, there are already people who have realized this and are solving the problem.
The Joe Rogan Experience podcast is the perfect example of a new masculine archetype for this era. Joe Rogan the comedian and host himself is an example of this, he is a former fighter and comedian who admitted on his podcast that he was not always a nice person, he learned how to do it through the discipline martial arts brought him. He talked about how he has inspired many to pick up martial arts because of listening to his podcast.
This archetype is the hermit archetype, the guide, or in Joe Rogan’s case the fool archetype or fallen guide. In the business world, I have listened to a podcast from the marketing company Storybrand that has the motto “If you confuse, you lose.” The host of that podcast suggests that businesses play guide to their customers.
We are entering an era of unprecedented levels and volume of communication. What America lacks is connection. That is not something easily won. I think what men need to be taught the most, from an early age, is how to connect with people. There is an unwritten expectation that friendships are supposed to form naturally.
Men have computers now. If they want women, they have porn. Men want connection too. Until American culture at large begins to understand men’s desire for connection and chooses to play a support role to allow this to happen on a bigger scale, men’s quality of lives will worsen and you will see them choose to shut themselves out of society to be alone with computer they control fully, rather than make themselves vulnerable in a society that doesn’t give them a clear roadmap to connection and power.
Thank goodness for my dad doing two things. 1- when I was a kid I told him his pink shirt was for girls he told me emphatically that a man can wear pink if he wants. What makes him a man is what he does, not what hes wearing.
2- he introduced me to Bruce Lee pretty young. My idea of a superman was never bossy and never bragged, and he didn’t take one hit more than he had to. Don’t be a hot head, think of your friends and family, when offered advice you don’t have to take it but always be considering.
I never had to do anything to “feel like a man”. And I never hurt anybody for no reason or allowed myself to be unfair.
That’s all cause of my dad’s hotpink shirt and fists of fury
Women and girls attempt suicide at higher rates than men and boys, but are less “successful” at it. This is well evidenced and a needed part of this discussion, and in no way diminishes the need to focus on the needs of men and boys.
If one assumes that the primary motivator for males is to mate, I think the new approach to their mental health does not address this issue. Their self-esteem is largely based on who they can mate with and scoring with a beautiful partner drives them to over-achieve, so that if they are not super handsome or well-endowed, healthy men work hard to become famous and/or rich enough to attract these pretty ones. Many people feel free to refuse to even consider partners who lack money, beauty, fame, etc.
That said, I think psychologists ought to convince their male clients that there are people out there who are not so shallow. How to find these “real” ones, how to approach and “woo” them and, most of all, how to appreciate them for what they can do may be more helpful. We all don’t all want big wallets or “hands.” Some of us are looking for the one who can complete us.
Well said, Sandy. I personally know a lot of women who are NOT interested in the “macho men” of the world, including myself. In my opinion, men are selling themselves short if they think they have to be tough and reserved all the time, or that they have to have a big bank account and an important position in society. If a man knows how to treat a women well and reveal his sensitive side (without worrying about his ego), he doesn’t need to have the fat wallet or be exceptionally handsome. In fact, I have found that the men society would deem “average” in all those areas mentioned, are some of the most amazing partners.
I’m afraid it’s a lot more complex than that. Do males have to mate more than women do? Males are also about protecting what they think is their own. And about a lot of other stuff as well.